Today is March 1st.
It has been exactly 60 days since Katie Grace graduated.
And I am still a mess of emotions trying to figure out this beast called grief.
There is this song that has been on repeat in the car since the graduation. I just now watched the video, and proceeded to crumble into a teary eyed mess on the floor. The song, is “I Lived” by OneRepublic.
Katie Grace dances upon the lyrics of this song. Her sweet soft feet touching each word as they play into my heart. It has become “our song.” She came into this world and lived. She could only do so much and she did it. She did it with every piece of her. And it called me out….to live….to embrace the marrow of life. To take in the depth of each moment, let it be what it is and let it change me.
The bad stuff
“I hope that you don’t suffer but take the pain.”
The good stuff
“I hope when you take that jump you don’t feel the fall.”
The scary stuff
“I hope when everybody runs you chose to stay”
The stuff that wrecks you to your core. The hurt that hurts so bad you aren’t sure you can survive. That becomes an ache in your soul you don’t know if you can live with it. The ache that makes you question the decisions that you made. The one that shows the jealously in your bones when mother’s embrace their daughters. That one that screams unfair as other 4 year olds run and play around you. That wants time to stand still, for the moving on to stop, in hopes that it means she will come back. The one that knows that it isn’t going to end in a year. That time won’t heal this wound, it may soften it but it won’t heal. Prom will come. Weddings will come. Milestones will come and she still won’t be here.
“I hope when you fall in love it hurts so bad.”
And yet in the middle of the despair I feel her calling me to live. To suck out the marrow of life. To sit on this fence of duality. Touching happiness and sadness at the same time. To be exhausted and energized. To want to hold on and let go.
To count it all joy.